It's finally hit me!
Marraige is a real funny thing.
All this time while I was dating my fiance, the only thing on my mind was when will I get married??
And now, when the time has finally arrived and there are a few days left..I'm,all of a sudden, all nervous and thinking.."Am I sure about this? Is this it? Can I think some more?"
It's a bizarre feeling. One side of you is 101% sure and the other side is still skeptical about the whole thing.
I was speaking to a friend the other day,who recently got married herself and she was telling me how different life is. She told me that the words "compromise & adjust" become your new best friends. Never mind how modernised we are with our thinking,the truth remains that we are moving into a new atmosphere so nobody cares on how we lived our life, forget about that and start living it according to them.
For someone who has done only what her heart wants to, I find this difficult to fathom. I now feel, What if I can't adjust to the new place? The people? The lifestyle? It is mighty scary.
Then the whole thought about leaving your family.
A life without my family, is something I never thought about. My parents have been my strength and weakness. My siblings are like my babies (being the eldest, one tends to feel motherlike towards them.)
My friends have been there like a pillar. Always could run to them when needed a support. Now imagine..leaving all this after such a long span of time and going to a place, where you don't know people,you don't know the place. All I can say is that this consists of alot of mixed feelings.
Nervousness invades you as you shall be under scrutiny throughout. It's going to be like a survelliance camera following you every minute of your life.
The whole procedure is a very emotional for me. I don't think many guys could understand this feeling as they would never go through it I guess.. but i'm sure the girls would know what I'm talking about.
To me,this is the hardest part of my life. This feeling is difficult to put in words. As much as I am happy..I admit that I hate this part of leaving.
Guess, a new chapter awaits me. Hope I can make this work :)
Oh Btw, MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYBODY!
All this time while I was dating my fiance, the only thing on my mind was when will I get married??
And now, when the time has finally arrived and there are a few days left..I'm,all of a sudden, all nervous and thinking.."Am I sure about this? Is this it? Can I think some more?"
It's a bizarre feeling. One side of you is 101% sure and the other side is still skeptical about the whole thing.
I was speaking to a friend the other day,who recently got married herself and she was telling me how different life is. She told me that the words "compromise & adjust" become your new best friends. Never mind how modernised we are with our thinking,the truth remains that we are moving into a new atmosphere so nobody cares on how we lived our life, forget about that and start living it according to them.
For someone who has done only what her heart wants to, I find this difficult to fathom. I now feel, What if I can't adjust to the new place? The people? The lifestyle? It is mighty scary.
Then the whole thought about leaving your family.
A life without my family, is something I never thought about. My parents have been my strength and weakness. My siblings are like my babies (being the eldest, one tends to feel motherlike towards them.)
My friends have been there like a pillar. Always could run to them when needed a support. Now imagine..leaving all this after such a long span of time and going to a place, where you don't know people,you don't know the place. All I can say is that this consists of alot of mixed feelings.
Nervousness invades you as you shall be under scrutiny throughout. It's going to be like a survelliance camera following you every minute of your life.
The whole procedure is a very emotional for me. I don't think many guys could understand this feeling as they would never go through it I guess.. but i'm sure the girls would know what I'm talking about.
To me,this is the hardest part of my life. This feeling is difficult to put in words. As much as I am happy..I admit that I hate this part of leaving.
Guess, a new chapter awaits me. Hope I can make this work :)
Oh Btw, MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYBODY!
posted by || sbk || at
11:34 PM
10 Comments:
my 1st time on ur blog...congrats for your marriage...wishing you a merry christmas and a great new year too :-)
Hey sbk,
These words were so much filled with the emotion that you may be experiencing right now. You are right... because maybe I am so far away from my own marriage, and because I am a guy, I may not experience all that you say. But well, guys also get introduced to a new family, so partly that holds for guys as well.
Also, I think I left some insensible comment on your last post, which I find deleted. I am sorry if you took offence at that.
All the best for your marriage :) And Merry Christmas!!
ss: Thankyou for your wishes and thanks for dropping by.
Sudipta: I didn't mean to offend "guys" in particular..I just meant to say that husbands(nowadays) really make an effort to make their wives comfortable and thanku so much for that..but this is something probably only a woman could understand coz we all go through it.
Hemanshu: You know how nosy we women are don't you...we are just dying to clean up your dirt everytime and make things cleaner for you...actually thats not true..we don't do all that for you'll, its because we want to live like a human being and so we force you to do the same :) hehehehe.
Take it easy mate, don't stress yourself out by working too much..and can you please do something about the common folk like allowing us to leave a comment on your blog!!! :)
im sure every gal has the same feeling same questions b4 the d day.......but since u have already been engaged....i think u shud let go ur fears.....moving out frm ur home is so difficult but unfortunately tht's the way it is........when two ppl decide to live together..thye both have n shud make thos lil adjustments.with lil undertsanding and lil tact everything shud just turn out fine.....leave rest to god......tcc n all the best
ohh yes did u say nythin abt the guys...did i hear nythng.......ok its all right i can understand tht : ) ....best wishes with u.....byee tcc
Ladoo motichur ka,
Jo khaye pachhataye jo na khaye pachtaye... close your eyes and take the leap! Being a married man, I want every one to get married! I can not bear others enjoying a single happy and organised life.
*hugs*
I'm not going to write paragraphs of things that you may want to hear or offer any advice instead all i'm going to say is take each day as it comes and don't forget that you're friends are always here for you when you need us :)
I hope that the changes in you're life become small and insignificant so that you can't notice teh adjustments you may have to make :)
married life...mmmmmmm nothing to say about it
can understand your nervousness, but maybe you shouldn't over-think things, let them just happen..
have a very happy new year, and a very happy new life together! :-)
hey, good luck with it all. i pray marriage works for you and keeps you forever happy.
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